Condoléances
| Loving Mommy-FOREVER |
I Wish |
July 17, 2012 |
I wish You hadn’t died,
You, who taught me how to live,
Who taught me what safety was
And You showed me how to Love.
I wish You hadn’t had to die…
You could be here with me now my Vanessa ,
Talking, laughing, crying with me,
Sharing everything life throws our way,
Enjoying each other.
You showed me what Love is,
Your affection never dimmed.
You modelled generosity,
Your spirit lives on…and on....and on
And my heart remembers.
You looked so peaceful when You died
And I was so weary of it,
But my grief has never let up.
I miss You every day,
BecauseYou left me behind.
There isn’t a day that I don’t think about You my Vanessa,
That I don’t wonder where You are,
Or how You would look if You were here?
Would Your tastes be the same, all these years on?
Would You still enjoy life the same way You did,
Or would age and pain have changed You,
The way they have changed me?
I wish You hadn’t died when You did.
I Love You beyond measure.
If You were here, this aching might leave me,
I might have a hand to hold,
The real presence of a Love so strong, so powerful
That death cannot separate us nor separation dilute.
You may be lost to me in this world,
But You are always with me.
I find You in the things that even death cannot steal.
No, my dearest one,
Your memory will not lie down and be forgotten – NEVER
And I will never lie down and forget.
I Love You with all my heart my Precious daughter Vanessa
| Forever Your Loving Family |
Our Precious Loving Vanessa |
July 13, 2012 |
Remember
her Love
her Smile
her Laugh
her Sparkling eyes
her Courage
her Life
Remember
her Fears
her Pain
her Sickness
her Fight
her Death
Just remember her
Taken far before her time Vanessa was a very Special sparkling light in our lives. We are missing her dearly as we struggle everyday to believe and except that she is gone. It seems like just a moment ago she shimmered in our world. Our sadness is only soothed by our beautiful memories and for those we are thankful....for we have so many. Vanessa was a true gem to be around and a best friend to many!!
| Forever Your Loving Family♥♥♥♥ |
Missing You more and more each passing day |
July 7, 2012 |
We wish You could come back again
just for a little while,
To see Your loving face again,
to see Your pretty smile.
To hold You in my arms again,
to sit and stroke Your hair,
To creep in Your room at night
and see You sleeping there
To walk to shopping together,
strolling hand in hand,
Why did You have to go my Love,
please help me understand.
I know what You are thinking.
That You have been set free,
But my daily life is planned for four,
I cant get used to three
We miss You Princess VEE,
The pain is still so raw.
We still sit and wait for You,
To come walking through the door.
Please hear our cries & plea's Dear Lord,
Our worlds' an empty place.
We need to see VEE smile again,
We need to kiss her face
| dragan's dad |
happy 4th of July in Heaven! |
July 4, 2012 |
Thinking of you on 4th of July.Anniversaries and holiday’s are a very lonely and difficult time for us without our child.
| Colleen ~ Patrick Carroll |
Happy 4th of July Vanessa |
July 3, 2012 |
| Debbie/Joey |
Sweet Angel & your wonderful Mom |
July 2, 2012 |
Oh, I think it is so hard for people who have not lost their, Life, Love, World their Child, to understand that kind of pain & all the different emotions. That every parent ,must go through. When you have a moment in your day please go to: www.deborahdematthews.com
My son Joseph, was my life, my best friend. I really only take day by day. I never know how I will be until I wake up.
My heart is with you, and your beautiful Vanessa is awlays in my daily prayers.
With all my heart,
Debbie DeMatthews
| Forever Your Loving Family |
Forever Loved |
July 2, 2012 |
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We're devastated that You're gone We'd've done anything to keep You here with us Right here where You belong We didn't know that life would take Such an unexpected path That You'd be separated from us so soon Heartbreaking reality we struggle to grasp And bitter though our losing You has been And so profound is the pain that we bear We're sadder still at no chance for goodbye No final expression of our deep Love and careYet believing that You're not too far away That your Spirit still lingers quite nearWe'll say our goodbyes in our words and our thoughtsTrusting that each one You'll hear Know that You were Loved in the truest of waysSo deep that only our hearts can give expressionYou'll be FOREVER surrounded by our LOVEFor we're sending it straight up to Heaven
Know that You'll be Cherished by each one of usFor Your example and kindness we'll treasureWe understand how Your life was a giftThat was meant to bless us foreverAnd though WE MISS YOU TERRIBLYWe want Your Spirit to be freeFree to enjoy all the wonders of HeavenNot bound to us in our griefSo watch over us with Happiness from Heaven ...
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What We Wish Others Understood |
June 26, 2012 |
What We Wish Others Understood
We wish You would not be afraid to speak child's name. Our child lived and was important and we need to hear her name. If we cry or get emotional when You talk about child, we wish You knew that it isn't because You have hurt us; the fact that our child died has caused our tears. You have allowed us to cry and for that we thank You. Crying and emotional outbursts are healing.We will have emotional highs and lows, ups and down. We wish You wouldn't think that if we have a good day our grief is all over or that if we have a bad day we need psychiatric counseling. We wish You knew that the death of a child is different from other losses and must be viewed separately. It is the ultimate tragedy and please don't compare her death to Your loss of a parent, a spouse or a pet. Being a bereaved parent is not contagious so we wish You wouldn't shy away from us. We wish You knew that all of the "crazy" grief reactions that we are having are in fact very normal. Depression, anger, frustration, hopelessness and the questioning of values and beliefs are to be expected following the death of a child. We wish You wouldn't expect our grief to be over in six months. The first few years are to be exceedingly traumatic for us.
We wish for You to understand the physical reactions to grief. We may gain weight or lose weight, sleep all the time or not at all, develop a host of illnesses or be accident prone -- all of which may be related to our grief. Our daughter's birthday, the anniversary of her death, and holidays are terrible times for us. We wish You could tell us that You are thinking about our Child on these days, and if we get quiet and withdraw, just know that we are thinking about our daughter and don't try to us into being cheerful. It is normal and good that most of us re-examine our faith, values, and beliefs after losing a child. We will question things we have been taught all of our lives and hopefully come to some new understanding with our God. We wish You would let us tangle with our religion without making us feel guilty.These are just temporary crutches and the only way we can get through this grief is to experience it. We have to hurt before we can heal. We wish You understood that grief changes people. We are not the same people we were before our daughter died and we will never be that person again. If You keep waiting for us to "get back to our old selves" You will remain frustrated. We are new creatures with new thoughts, dreams, aspirations, values, and beliefs. Please try to get to know the new us -- maybe You'll like us still. We believe that instead of sitting around and waiting for our wishes to come true, we have an obligation to tell people some of the things we have learned about our grief. We can teach these lessons with great kindness, believing that people have good intentions and want to do what is right, but just don't know what to do with us.
Author Unknown
| Loving Mommy |
Blessed Rest my Love |
June 25, 2012 |
God knew that You were tired
A cure was not to be
He put His arms around You
As said please come to me.
I watched You, tears in my eyes
As You slowly passed away
I wanted to keep You with me
Yet knew You could not stay.
A beautiful heart stopped beating
At last You were at rest
I guess God had to prove to me
He only takes the best.
No one could ever take Your place
If I live a million years
Each night Your name is on my lips
My eyes still full of tears.
I know that You're in Heaven
As I search the sky above
Sending You a silent message
From my heart that's full of Love.
| ~Barbara~ |
^i^Caroline Scanlon's Nana |
June 21, 2012 |
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